I was doing some more research on tickling, and I decided to get bold and go to the Tickle Brits website. On this website, they have a section entitled "TicklePedia". On TicklePedia, they have a list involving the Dos and Donts of tickling fetish relationships. I would like to share these with you with my own comments in italics:
DOS:
1. Always, always, always communicate with your partner. Tell them what you enjoy (tickling), what you don't enjoy (not tickling), what you'd like to try (heavy tickling) and what you really don't like (any other form of physical contact).
2. Come up with a safeword (I'm not ticklish). Even if you never use it, it's useful to have in the event of a medical or other emergency.
3. Set limits. (Never stop tickling). Make sure that you and your partner both know what they can do (tickle) and can't do (sit motionless) to each other.
4. If you are in a BDSM (no idea) relationship espesically, decide how much of your fetish will come into your everyday life. Will you only take on your top (tickler) and bottom (ticklee)roles in the bedroom, at the weekend, or 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
5. If your partner doesn't share your fetish (what are the chances that they would?) ask them if they wouldn't mind trying it out, perhaps in return for you trying something they would like to try (kissing). If not, ask if they mind you finding a play partner (Tickle Me Elmo), purely to indulge your fetish, outside your relationship.
6. Make sure you know of any medical conditions (sanity) your partner may have.
7. Make sure you know how to give good aftercare (a break from all the creepy tickling) After an intense session, most people will need at least a hug (i would probably prefer some alone time)
8. If you are both switches (?), agree that any mistakes made during a session are mistakes, and to be forgiven. (i am assuming that forgivness in a tickling mishap is easier said than done)
9. Make sure your partner knows when you are "in character" if you are taking on roles within a session. (i would assume that he would be able to tell if you are in character based on whether or not you are tickling him)
10. Use common sense, you want to enjoy your relationship and make it a happy one, not upset the other person by doing something stupid!
DON'T:
1. Don't Go behind your partner's back to get your fetish fix, even if they don't share your fetish (But what if I see a hot boy with his armpits exposed?)
2. Don't Bottle up your emotions. If you don't like the idea of something your partner wants to do (eat dinner without being tickled), tell them, don't just go along with it to make them happy. This goes for is there's something you want to do as well. Communicate.
3. Don't Leave someone straight after a session, they will probably want to cuddle (punch you in the face) while they recover. This close time will help strengthen your relationship.
4. Don't Ridicule any fetish (normal social behavior) your partner may have. It's rude, and they didn't ridicule yours.
5. Don't take out your anger on a sub in a seesion or or "take revenge" (going for the belly button) for a mistake the other person made in another session.
6. Don't be afraid to drop character and check on your partner during the session. You can always go back into character right away if they're ok, and if not, you can do something about it.
7. Don't try something in a session without making sure your partner is ok with it, at least in theory if it's something new to them.
8. Don't try something in a session without finding out how to do it properly first.
9. Don't try to "gut out" a session if you feel that you're not in the mood or can't put any negative emotions aside. Genuine anger is to be avoided at all costs and trying to hide it and struggle on almost inevitably leads to issues.
10. Don't be afraid to use your safewords (I'm not ticklish) if necessary. Your partner will understand (will they?), will not think any less of you, and frankly, would rather you told them when you are in trouble (about to wet yourself).
Are the parentheticals yours or from the site?
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